Beauty is not how skinny you can be

So I was watching this video on youtube by the user MuggleSam. It's this four year old little girl talking to the viewer about how something is wrong, we all want to look like someone else. Every day we're showed these beautiful, thin, models with long volumous hair and perfect skin. Not once do we ever see anyone overweight or not stick thin. We know OF these people, but we never see them. We're fed this constant propaganda of what beauty is. To quote four year old Sophia, "Beauty is NOT how skinny you can be". Beauty is being YOUR OWN healthy size based on your height, genetics, and age. How is it that this little girl gets that, but most of the grown and matured society doesn't?


Not all of us can be that skinny mini size of negative five, but guess what? That's ALLOWED. There are how many people in this world? At least 6 billion, and that's constantly growing. In a world of THAT many people, how could we ever have "one perfect size"? We can't. We can have groups of people, like the girls with curves, the guys with muscley legs, or that group of people with very lovely bums, but there is no "perfect" look. It's all based off preferance. And, really, as long as you're healthy, who gives a damn if you have lovehandles and an ass to go with it? Strut that ass, honey!


You don't need to have perfect skin and hair to be beautiful either. Let your beauty radiate through who you ARE. You're like a birthday present! Who wants an empty box that's nicely decorated? We demolish that nice wrapping anyway. You could have some really dingy wrapping, but people will forget all about that once they realize the amazing present inside! Yes, I know, people are going to argue that "looks matter to a degree", but not nearly as high a degree as personality.


I have this wonderful friend, Anna, who makes fun of herself all the time about her weight and "average" face. Regardless, everytime I see her, I don't see any of that. I see her contagious smile, and sweet spirit. Seriously, that girl is going to change the world one day, and the world needs more people like her to reduce the suck in it. I remember a post she made one day about how she perceives true beauty. I promise you there's nothing more inspiring. This was probably my favorite part;

"By society’s impossible standards for beauty, I would be considered “ugly.” I’m not thin, I have braces, and my hair usually looks like a bird’s nest if I don’t straighten it. Yet, I think of myself as beautiful, and so do many other people. Why? I think of myself as beautiful because of my character, my personality, and my heart. I have confidence in myself and a deep love for everything and everybody around me. I see that beauty is something inside a person. I don’t let society brainwash me into thinking I need to be thinner. I don’t let society brainwash me into thinking I need perfect teeth and perfect hair. I don’t let society brainwash me into thinking looking good on the outside is the only thing that is important.

Because sooner or later, I’m not going to look as good as I do now. I’ll get old, probably fat, and get wrinkles and gray hair. And so will everybody else. So when my looks fade, I’m going to need to have something left. I’m going to need a personality, a kind heart, and overall, I just need to be somebody people want to be around. Because if I’m not beautiful anymore and a horrible person on top of that, who would want to be around me?"

She's seriously one of the strongest and best people I know. We could learn a lot from her.

This is Anna...in case that wasn't obvious..

Anyways, my point being, you don't have to wear the negative five skirt, dress, whatever or have the best hair products, or even use the best make up. Beauty is not how skinny you can be. Beauty is not how tamed your hair is. Beauty is definitely not what ink or powders you can hide behind. Beauty is health, and a good heart, so develop yourself as an original you, not a copy of someone else. Because, like Anna said, those people with the good looks? Those looks are going to fade. Yours will too, but if you nourish yourself, and practice being a fantastic person, you'll have those golden life nuggets. No one can take that away from you.

Say What You Feel

The more I think about it, the more I don't understand why we don't tell the people we like that we have feelings for them. What's the advantage of keeping it a secret? The element of surprise? When has that ever been useful in those circumstances? Yeah it might be a little awkward if they don't feel the same, but that's pretty much the worst that could happen. Obviously there are exceptions to the people who aren't single, but other than that, what gives? I remember how it was embarrassing in elementary school for people to know who you liked, actually, for some it still is now.


I remember having the biggest crush on Elliott Lugo, most of my elementary school "career" (why do we call it that?). In 5th grade there was an overnight field trip. Now of course I was the weird awkward kid with the fake and bitchy best friend who wasn't really a friend. She was friends with whoever made her look good. ANYWAY we were put in a room with about 8 other girls. Of course we did that girl thing at night where we share our crushes, and we all agreed that non of that left the room. Guess who forgot that agreement on the way home? Yeah. Miss "best friend". On the way home she wanted to seem cool and embarrass me, so she shouted across the bus about me liking Elliott just as he walked by. Now obviously I blushes and quietly denied it, but it didn't matter. I'm sure he already knew, because I suck a being subtle, but I didn't know that then. Anyway, my point here is, I shouldn't have been embarrassed. I should have looked that bitch in the face and said "Good job, Taylor, do you feel accomplished now? Yes, I like Elliott. Who cares?"


I mean there's really no reason for us to want to keep it a secret. If you like someone, don't wait another second. Go tell them. It's better than sitting there wishing they'd come to you. It's probably a lot easier too. What's the worse they can do? Reject you? No biggie. If you do it soon enough, you can get over it, and move on. Seriously people, let's cut it with the secrecy here.